As difficult as it is, you and I must come to understand:
It is better to be the one slandered,
Than to be the one slandering.
So, dear friend, as words fly your way, accusing, criticizing, mocking…
Remember, words will hurt, but not all words are accurate… many miss the mark,
Because the eye of the one aiming, scoping, zinging accusations your way
Is without a doubt color blind, near-sighted, far-sighted, or with vision blocked by clouds of self-deception… herself becoming blinded in the process.
Many times something seen is later discovered to be nothing—an illusion, a mirage.
So, let them slander, if that’s the best they have to offer.
God will speak in your defense, if you ask.
Simply remain steadfastly quiet, minding your own business, seeking to please Him most of all.
But to be the one slandering…
The one mingling with those like-minded in their vain estimations,
The one whose whispering, back-biting and puffed up speculations draw her to huddle together with others of small minds,
And even smaller hearts…
Rarely speaking to you, satisfied in hearing only others’ opinions concerning you, yet somehow thinking she knows all about you…
He who goes about as a talebearer reveals secrets; therefore do not associate with one who flatters with his lips. – Proverbs 20:19
She is one to be pitied. And prayed for.
…Love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you… – Matthew 5:44
At the same time, we must remember those instances when our own words caused pain.
(Forgiveness is more easily given when we recognize our own need to be forgiven.)
Find ways to extend grace, determining to be more careful about not only the words that come from your mouth, but the thoughts behind the words.
Mostly, be careful not to forget humility. Without it, you will easily become one who slanders… the one who always views others as in the wrong, but never herself.
And it is not a desirable place to be.
A good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart brings forth evil. For out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks. – Luke 6:45
And don’t forget:
When a man’s ways please the Lord, He makes even his enemies to be at peace with him. – Proverbs 16:7